|Posted on February 2, 2010 at 12:59 PM|
It’s that magical time of year again when women drive themselves crazy over Valentine’s Day. Yes I say women because we all know that it is us ladies that obsess over Valentine’s Day. Well this year, I say no more. This year I ask all the ladies, both in relationships and all the single ladies to say no to Valentine’s Day.
Here is a little background on Valentine’s Day. It was originally a Saint’s Day dedicated to several Saints that held the name Valentine or Valentinus as it was known in ancient Rome. These Saint’s were all brutally martyred for their Christian beliefs. The most well-known Valentine lived in the time of Emperor Claudius the second, in ancient Rome. He was caught marrying a Christian couple which at the time was not permitted. He was held captive and finally sentenced to death, and was beaten with large stones and clubs. When that failed to do him in the Emperor finally had him beheaded and he was buried on February 14th, and that is the day we celebrate love. I suppose you can sort of call that romantic but I don’t want to get candy and flowers on the day that someone was unjustly murdered.
If the historical factor doesn’t turn you off then all one has to do is look around at the commercialization of the holiday, it’s enough to make you sick. I know what you’re thinking I am a cynic but that is not the case at all. I love love. I truly believe that it is one of the most powerful forces on this earth; I just don’t believe that it should be capitalized on. Every year men and women are told to buy, buy, buy, in order to show their significant other how much they really care. Eventually it becomes a contest of who can out do whom. What’s worse is the real damage it can do to a relationship or to a single individual. If you’re single on this day or without a date not only do you feel left out but society looks down on you for it. Not to mention all the other people that are in relationships going on and on about their plans for Valentine’s Day or the gift their significant others bought for them. When the conversation turns to you, you have to say something like “oh I don’t have any plans I just may head home early and curl up with a good book”. It’s almost seems like it’s meant to be humiliating for single people. On the flip side for people in relationships they are stuck with the dilemma of figuring out what to get their partner. I don’t think I have to tell you about the endless arguments that can occur over this subject. Men and women are forced to accept and possibly pretend to like the tacky little gift their spouses picked for them. Or they are forced to spend hundreds of dollars on big ticket items such as jewelry or vacations for their loved ones, it hardly seems fair.
If you really want to celebrate your love then here is my advice. Celebrate it every day. Show the person how much you care by doing little things for them all year around. Bring home flowers for no particular reason; surprise your spouse with their favorite meal during a regular weeknight, or take an interest in one of their hobbies. Love is something that is special and should not be taken for granted or exploited. So stand up for love and say NO to Valentine’s Day!